24th September 2005, 11:19 AM
Cheating is a very simple paradigm.
People with low self-esteem need to be flirted with or flirt with as many people as possible. This never goes beyond in to any actual sex, but it can get close. In those situations it's up to the partner to decide what was too far. Some girls say looking at another woman is cheating, some girls say fucking them is okay but kissing is not, some girls dont care where you put your penis as long as you use protection and as long as you stay in love with them and not your fuckbuddies.
Totally opposite with men. The line all men use is "You can do other women (as long as i'm there) but if you so much as think of another man i'll disown you... I mean break up with you..." When in reality all people think up fantasies and masturbate to them all without their partner's knowledge. In fact, a healthy relationship requires this.
We're the only primate on Earth that tries to 'mate for life' while all other primates do the whole town as many times as possible, which is at the basis of all male thinking until we realize that we're lonely and we want an actual relationship with that love stuff everyone is talking about.
Love, is when you completely trust a person and you care for them more than yourself (physically, mentally) and you want to have massive sex at them. The catch is, while many people believe they have felt this, the idea is that both partners feel this way mutually in order for actual love to be in effect. Total and complete trust does not happen easily.
So all it comes down to is personal opinion and constant communication. If your girlfriend wants to wear a strap on and do you and she feels like she's never going to get the chance to do it because you keep saying no, ask yourself if you love her enough to help her. Which might mean helping her find someone else that she can experiment this fantasy with. Like I said, caring about your partner more than yourself. You should have enough trust in her to know that she can sleep with someone else and still be in love with you without your brain firing off ideas of anti-trust and spinning in to jealousy.
So long as she's honest with you. If she did find herself having feelings for someone else, it's time for some major tweaking of the brain's perception of love and how you feel about your partner.
Having said that, no Minka has not asked me if she can do me with a strapon. But God i wish she would.
People with low self-esteem need to be flirted with or flirt with as many people as possible. This never goes beyond in to any actual sex, but it can get close. In those situations it's up to the partner to decide what was too far. Some girls say looking at another woman is cheating, some girls say fucking them is okay but kissing is not, some girls dont care where you put your penis as long as you use protection and as long as you stay in love with them and not your fuckbuddies.
Totally opposite with men. The line all men use is "You can do other women (as long as i'm there) but if you so much as think of another man i'll disown you... I mean break up with you..." When in reality all people think up fantasies and masturbate to them all without their partner's knowledge. In fact, a healthy relationship requires this.
We're the only primate on Earth that tries to 'mate for life' while all other primates do the whole town as many times as possible, which is at the basis of all male thinking until we realize that we're lonely and we want an actual relationship with that love stuff everyone is talking about.
Love, is when you completely trust a person and you care for them more than yourself (physically, mentally) and you want to have massive sex at them. The catch is, while many people believe they have felt this, the idea is that both partners feel this way mutually in order for actual love to be in effect. Total and complete trust does not happen easily.
So all it comes down to is personal opinion and constant communication. If your girlfriend wants to wear a strap on and do you and she feels like she's never going to get the chance to do it because you keep saying no, ask yourself if you love her enough to help her. Which might mean helping her find someone else that she can experiment this fantasy with. Like I said, caring about your partner more than yourself. You should have enough trust in her to know that she can sleep with someone else and still be in love with you without your brain firing off ideas of anti-trust and spinning in to jealousy.
So long as she's honest with you. If she did find herself having feelings for someone else, it's time for some major tweaking of the brain's perception of love and how you feel about your partner.
Having said that, no Minka has not asked me if she can do me with a strapon. But God i wish she would.