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[Weltall]

Originally posted by Sacred Jellybean
It's obvious that the physical act of homosexuality is one's own choice. I could slip a Roofie into my room mate's drink and violate his sweet body while he serenely slumbers. Yes, THAT is a choice. But it's just an example, I swear! *hides Roofies*

But let me ask you something... I'm assuming the two of you (Weltall, Dark Jaguar) are straight. You're sexually aroused by women. You fantasize of luscious, soft breasts in nice, warm bubble bath. But have you ever had a homosexual fantasy?

The ability to go out and have sex with a member of the same gender is one thing, obviously a choice, but inherent sexual arousal OF members of the same gender is NOT a choice. Can you help but loving women? If you really tried, do you think you could live a homosexual lifestyle and be truly happy? If necessary, could you CHOOSE to uphold a sexual relationship with another man? If we lived in a gay society where women were forbidden from men, your sex life would be hard, very hard. Because repressing strong, sexual urges that are channeled from the unconscious isn't by any means easy. You may have the choice to not act them out, but you couldn't MAKE yourself be sexually aroused by a certain member of whatever gender/race/species. *hides cat*

All joking (shifty eyes) aside, do you see what I'm saying?

No, I don't agree. If our culture were one were homosexuality were openly encouraged from a very early age, or even forced, people would have little trouble having gay sex. There would be no choice involved. Of course, the reproductive aspect would not be there, so the human race would die after about a hundred years :D

But even your sexual urges are a result of your choice. You don't just one day become straight or gay. It's something that develops. Most people are heterosexual because most other people they are in contact with are. Those they are closest with at a young age are usually heterosexual, therefore, that's the choice they make, even if unconsciously. Those who experience the opposite are more likely to become gay.

Then again, urges alone do not determine whether you're gay or not, just like you're not a murderer even if you have the urge to kill someone. It's whether you ACT on those urges. And as I said earlier, your urges are a result of experience, not genetics. No baby is born gay.