1st March 2008, 11:54 AM
Aurora Unit 3173-E.0, I, uh, think that perhaps it would be best if I stepped in here, if it is not an inconvenience to you. My assumption is that an entity as logical as you will have some trouble dealing with emotions, which are more subjective. My education in therapy will certainly come in handy here.
Mr. bum, if I may. It is apparent that you have felt deeply for a woman who coldly rejected you and didn't treat you with respect. This was your first love, and you were grappling with other issues at the time, namely growing up and taking responsibility. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you were also her first love. The first time people fall in love, it tends to be the least stable, especially when you're still on the young side of the spectrum. With so much on your plate, it's not surprising the depression you were battling. Your ex-wife had many issues she had to dealt with, one of them being sexual abuse as a child. You realize, of course, that she is fundamentally different than Madeleine in this fashion. It was a large risk for both of you, her travelling halfway across the world to be with you. It went south, perhaps doomed from the start with the problems the two of you were having.
Now, if things were to go south with this new girly, there is little doubt in my mind that it would go more smoothly. Given what you've said of her personality, problems would be dealt with with open communication, compromises, and at least an attempt to keep alive the love you feel. You're a very passionate man, as am I. I empathize with you fully in this manner. You know what you want: security, someone who complements you and brings out the best in you, compatibility, physical attraction. You realize how important falling in love is do you, and it's for this reason you must already realize that it's worth fighting for. It's worth having the courage to take such a large disappointment again. Anything of great value begets a great challenge. Your challenge hasn't manifested itself in finding the woman, your challenge exists in having faith and trying your best in what you know you want. And again, take comfort in the fact that so many factors are already in your favor. You're a great person, and I'm sure you'll do fine if you and her are on the same wavelength.
Good luck!
Mr. bum, if I may. It is apparent that you have felt deeply for a woman who coldly rejected you and didn't treat you with respect. This was your first love, and you were grappling with other issues at the time, namely growing up and taking responsibility. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you were also her first love. The first time people fall in love, it tends to be the least stable, especially when you're still on the young side of the spectrum. With so much on your plate, it's not surprising the depression you were battling. Your ex-wife had many issues she had to dealt with, one of them being sexual abuse as a child. You realize, of course, that she is fundamentally different than Madeleine in this fashion. It was a large risk for both of you, her travelling halfway across the world to be with you. It went south, perhaps doomed from the start with the problems the two of you were having.
Now, if things were to go south with this new girly, there is little doubt in my mind that it would go more smoothly. Given what you've said of her personality, problems would be dealt with with open communication, compromises, and at least an attempt to keep alive the love you feel. You're a very passionate man, as am I. I empathize with you fully in this manner. You know what you want: security, someone who complements you and brings out the best in you, compatibility, physical attraction. You realize how important falling in love is do you, and it's for this reason you must already realize that it's worth fighting for. It's worth having the courage to take such a large disappointment again. Anything of great value begets a great challenge. Your challenge hasn't manifested itself in finding the woman, your challenge exists in having faith and trying your best in what you know you want. And again, take comfort in the fact that so many factors are already in your favor. You're a great person, and I'm sure you'll do fine if you and her are on the same wavelength.
Good luck!