Help me pick out a new game or two

[A Black Falcon]

A strategy/RPG is not an RPG. That's what we're saying. A SRPG is a Strategy game with <i>RPG elements</i>. At it's heart, it is still a strategy game.

This I agree with... but really, think about it. "RPG" has a definition as a term. "S"? Nope. So you say "SRPG" and the connotation is "RPG with some modifications" -- like "ARPG" for action-RPG, which are most often thought of as RPGs first and action games second. "SRPG"s are strategy games first and RPGs second (or third, if tactics is included as the first 'genre' in the category), so it makes no sense to use a definition which fails to recognize that.

Most SRPGs are tactical combat games. Some I would call TBSes, like Fire Emblem; Ogre Battle 64 I would probably just say is an RTS, though of course a very unique one (like how Sid Meier's Gettysburg is a quite unique wargame that borders on being an RTS, but isn't quite).