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So... I guess I really am asexual. - Dark Jaguar - 14th June 2022

Everyone here probably remembers that fun label I slapped on myself... geez 20 years ago now just for fun.  Well no, I'm not schizophrenic and I've been attempting to avoid using that in a joking manner these days, but it's that OTHER one.  I still remember thinking "Oh I'm a nerd and nerds don't like sex stuff" back then, not realizing that the jokes about nerds not having sex had more to do with a lack of charisma or outright antisocial tendencies than just "being interested in other things".  That's why I was often surprised just how often things drifted into the sexual around here and why I'd randomly comment "wait, YOU like that stuff? But I thought you were a dork like me not um, like lazyfatbum!", or whatever it was I said.  In any case, only recently I've come to find out that yes, that is actually a legitimate "orientation", if you just add a different axis to move along.  I may have heard about it off and on but didn't really look into it much at all, and well, people like lazy would just dismiss them entirely as "in denial" or whatever so I just ignored it.

But yea, having actually taken the time to (re)discover and actually research it this time, that... well that's me to a T.  I'm not sure why I'm bringing it up but I figured the friends I made online here of all places would probably get a kick out of the "how appropriate" comedy of it all.  Sorry Weltall but I'm gonna shatter any illusions you may have had that I secretly get more of the sex than the entire east coast.  I don't know why I stuck a rainbow on this one.  It's not really a "pride month" thing but I guess maybe... tangential to it perhaps.  The axis I find myself on is at a right angle to it at least, and if you pictured it like that I guess I fall flat at the bottom.  Frankly I get surprised any time someone shows sexual interest directed at me in the real world like, it throws me to have to consider that for a moment, and any sort of um, attempts tend to leave me pretty seriously grossed out but that's a "me" thing probably linking to things I would rather not go into here.  So yea, there it is.

Now let's do at some video game talks, or politics or whatever it is the kids like these days.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Great Rumbler - 17th June 2022

Congrats on the sex


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Dark Jaguar - 17th June 2022

Pffft hahahaha!

I think perhaps you may have misread a line or two.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Weltall - 17th June 2022

A


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Dark Jaguar - 18th June 2022

My A has a red circle around it mind you, but yes.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Weltall - 26th June 2022

Perhaps I misread a line or two, that was supposed to be porn.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Dark Jaguar - 27th June 2022

(26th June 2022, 4:39 PM)Weltall Wrote: Perhaps I misread a line or two, that was supposed to be porn.

I meant well, the anarchy symbol, but also A as a symbol of the asexual group, which I'm still wrapping my head around being "a part" of.

I... I think maybe I didn't communicate well?


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - etoven - 5th August 2022

(27th June 2022, 5:39 AM)Dark Jaguar Wrote:
(26th June 2022, 4:39 PM)Weltall Wrote: Perhaps I misread a line or two, that was supposed to be porn.

I... I think maybe I didn't communicate well?

Congrats on the sex, sorry she didn't want to talk during.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - etoven - 5th August 2022

(27th June 2022, 5:39 AM)Dark Jaguar Wrote:
(26th June 2022, 4:39 PM)Weltall Wrote: Perhaps I misread a line or two, that was supposed to be porn.

He shouldn't really talk during these things. It's mostly about what your penis is doing.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Dark Jaguar - 8th August 2022

(27th June 2022, 5:39 AM)Dark Jaguar Wrote:
(26th June 2022, 4:39 PM)Weltall Wrote: Perhaps I misread a line or two, that was supposed to be porn.

I meant well, the anarchy symbol, but also A as a symbol of the asexual group, which I'm still wrapping my head around being "a part" of.

I... I think maybe I didn't communicate well?

Seriously, where did I misspeak?  There is no sex going on nor will there ever be!  Where did I misspeak?  Which line was I unclear on?


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Sacred Jellybean - 13th September 2022

(8th August 2022, 5:13 AM)Dark Jaguar Wrote: Seriously, where did I misspeak?  There is no sex going on nor will there ever be!  Where did I misspeak?  Which line was I unclear on?

idk, they're probably just having fun with you. Glad you realize this about yourself, sounds like an epiphany. :) I always just figured you were modest about sex/sexual jokes, not necessarily ace. Do you think that you're aromantic as well?


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - Dark Jaguar - 14th September 2022

(13th September 2022, 7:28 PM)Sacred Jellybean Wrote:
(8th August 2022, 5:13 AM)Dark Jaguar Wrote: Seriously, where did I misspeak?  There is no sex going on nor will there ever be!  Where did I misspeak?  Which line was I unclear on?

idk, they're probably just having fun with you. Glad you realize this about yourself, sounds like an epiphany. :) I always just figured you were modest about sex/sexual jokes, not necessarily ace. Do you think that you're aromantic as well?

Honestly I've only just been digging into something that to me was just a joke I told about myself for years, so getting a handle on it all has been quite a trip.  There's even a flag I guess?  I feel a little uncomfortable waving something like that around though, because I don't really feel like I deserve a spot with much more vast group that's suffered and continues to suffer massive cultural and legal oppression.  In any case, I can say this much.  I don't experience attraction.  I can't say if I'm aromantic though.  The idea of separating the two is also very new to me.  In any case, as of right now all I can say with any certainty is I've got an aversion to sex in all it's forms, solo or couples or whatever, and that while past experiences I'd rather not go into do paint some of that it's a bit more complicated than just "oh hey trauma explains it".  In any case, thank you!  Like I said a post like this is a little outside my normal comfort zone but heck I've known you guys longer than some of my real world friends and felt like sharing.


RE: So... I guess I really am asexual. - etoven - 14th September 2022

(14th June 2022, 9:21 AM)Dark Jaguar Wrote: Everyone here probably remembers that fun label I slapped on myself... geez 20 years ago now just for fun.  Well no, I'm not schizophrenic and I've been attempting to avoid using that in a joking manner these days, but it's that OTHER one.  I still remember thinking "Oh I'm a nerd and nerds don't like sex stuff" back then, not realizing that the jokes about nerds not having sex had more to do with a lack of charisma or outright antisocial tendencies than just "being interested in other things".  That's why I was often surprised just how often things drifted into the sexual around here and why I'd randomly comment "wait, YOU like that stuff? But I thought you were a dork like me not um, like lazyfatbum!", or whatever it was I said.  In any case, only recently I've come to find out that yes, that is actually a legitimate "orientation", if you just add a different axis to move along.  I may have heard about it off and on but didn't really look into it much at all, and well, people like lazy would just dismiss them entirely as "in denial" or whatever so I just ignored it.

But yea, having actually taken the time to (re)discover and actually research it this time, that... well that's me to a T.  I'm not sure why I'm bringing it up but I figured the friends I made online here of all places would probably get a kick out of the "how appropriate" comedy of it all.  Sorry Weltall but I'm gonna shatter any illusions you may have had that I secretly get more of the sex than the entire east coast.  I don't know why I stuck a rainbow on this one.  It's not really a "pride month" thing but I guess maybe... tangential to it perhaps.  The axis I find myself on is at a right angle to it at least, and if you pictured it like that I guess I fall flat at the bottom.  Frankly I get surprised any time someone shows sexual interest directed at me in the real world like, it throws me to have to consider that for a moment, and any sort of um, attempts tend to leave me pretty seriously grossed out but that's a "me" thing probably linking to things I would rather not go into here.  So yea, there it is.

Now let's do at some video game talks, or politics or whatever it is the kids like these days.

Schizophrenic is the other side of asexual? God damn.